An Analogy of Introductions.
Introductions come in as a well-versed routine for some; while for others, it can lead to an existential crisis.
The basic start of an introduction usually begins by exchanging names, perhaps where they come from (in our beautifully globalized world, people are curious to learn more about the other culture), what they do for a living, how long they have been in that certain place — anything that helps one learn more about the other person.
For those who like meeting new people, growing their social circle, networking, boasting about their lives, introductions are but an excuse for them to initiate a conversation — which genuinely leads to insights beyond one’s knowledge when associated with the right person.
For those who are rather introverted and absorb the energy of silence and solidarity, introductions can be overwhelming. In fact, in between the act of an introduction, they can start hearing themselves, trying to gather “the right words” even though it is themselves they are talking about. It can also be a point leading to self-awareness where they would balance out where they stand between this introduction and their last. And whether they have grown or prospered ever since that last introduction.
A simple feat can become something of a self-actualization point leading to an existential crisis where one must ask themselves after the interaction “where do they actually stand in life.”
As dramatic as a simple introduction can be for some, while for others, a simple way of connecting and exposing themselves to the world, the same feeling is embedded in every introduction — the feeling of unfamiliarity.
For those who find introducing themselves as another task, and want to rather improve themselves, can refer to a few simple guidelines below:
1. Prepare a mini summary of basic answers for yourself.
“What is your name?” “What are you currently doing?” “Where are you from?” It will never hurt you to gather and prepare a simple summary about yourself.
Practice your opening in front a mirror. The answers in your mini summary can help you organize your responses and help you see your facial expressions and body language while you introduce yourself to your reflection (and make you think, “is that how I really look like while introducing myself?”) This will help you become aware about how you present yourself to others as well.
3. Be confident.
You may feel like you are faltering during an introduction, maybe a little voice inside you head saying “are you sure that you are telling the truth?”. Learn to shun that voice and instead try to focus on your script. Do monitor your voice on different levels to see what tone fits you best. Remember, this is only an introduction. If you hit it off with the other person, you will be led into a whole conversation consisting of different topics. And that is where you can let the magic begin.
There are many chances and scenarios where you will be required to introduce yourself, each one different than the others. Maybe for a Job interview, a colleague, a classmate, perhaps at your family gathering where you meet a random new cousin and so on. Introductions may feel like another “oh no, not again” but you can ensure success by being prepared, practice and confidence. After all, an introduction could be a gateway to many conversations, opportunities and even friendships that you are missing out on.